Relationships
Do your relationships often follow the same patterns?
Are we reliving old wounds with new partners?
Whether we keep getting hurt, or are the ones doing the hurting, therapy can help.
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory is based on the findings that being in close relationship with others is written in our genetic code. Relationships are the most important mechanism in life to find safety and connection. The ones we love are our source of shelter from the world; when they aren’t available, it’s instinctual that we feel our survival is threatened. It’s not a logical response, it’s a feeling programmed in us from birth. Our attachment system begins developing with our primary caregiver and continues to grow and change depending on trauma, adult relationships, and the environments we live in.
Neuroplasticity
The good news is that our attachment systems are flexible! Neuroplasticity offers hope that you can work with, change, and heal whatever attachment you are. While early experiences strongly influence brain development, the brain can adapt later in life through new, healthier relationships and therapy. Repeated positive interactions, whether through secure adult relationships or therapy, can help "rewire" the brain, allowing you to develop more secure attachment patterns and healthier emotional responses.
How can therapy help?
Attachment is all about feeling connected. When that’s threatened, we go back to our old innate habits we might have learned in childhood or previous relationships. In therapy, we’ll explore these old relationships and how we’ve been impacted by them. Using tools on self regulation, effective communication, and proper boundary settings, we can get closer to a secure way of relating to others. That starts with a secure relationship in the room between us.
I use modalities such as EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you reprocess attachment-related trauma and reshape how the brain responds to emotional triggers. We have the potential to create new neural connections that promote healthy emotional regulation, trust, and better relationships.
